Sometimes a sharing and learning moment arises from a single question and we have a really insightful talk. I relish these talks. I love seeing Crappy Boy connect the dots of his universe.
These conversations happen often. He asks profound questions that blow my mind. Kids are neat.
This was a recent “important topic” talk. It didn’t go exactly like the others. It went like this…
It starts with a question:
It doesn’t matter what the question is or what the topic is. You can insert any important topic you like.
It could be the meaning of life, how babies are made, cultural relativism or why Anakin turned to the dark side. Whatever “important topic” means for your family.
Anyway, he asks me a big question. A wide door leading to his hungry mind is flung open. I can put some good stuff in there!
So I get to work:
I begin explaining at his level so he will understand. I make it interesting! I use examples! I create descriptive pictures so he can visualize it!
I even intersect the important topic with his personal life! He can relate to this! I’ve made it real!
I am so good at this.
Next, I will involve him, pull him into the conversation.
I will ask him a question to both gauge his understanding of the material and to deepen our discussion:
It is a good question. Open-ended. There isn’t a right or wrong answer. I’m seeking his personal thoughts on this important topic.
The question is something along the lines of “What do you think?”
He pauses for a moment. He must really be taking this all in! Carefully weighing his thoughts.
I have really reached him. I’ve really made him think!
I can’t wait to hear how he perceives this topic.
Then he speaks:
Confused, I stumble and start to repeat the question. Surely, he just misheard that one part. He just needs clarification about the question.
Experts say that even when kids don’t seem to be listening they really are retaining quite a bit.
I don’t trust statements that use the phrase “experts say” to strengthen validity because experts also say that people are full of shit.
(Constipation is a modern epidemic.)