Midlife Crisis

A couple weeks ago…

True.

I do say this every month. Approximately every 28 days.

Hmmm, I can’t imagine why this would be.

 

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130 Responses to Midlife Crisis

  1. Micki says:

    Funny how the men in our life recognize the “crisis” but never recognize that they contribute to the “crisis.”

  2. Jeanna says:

    I always have a monthly,”I AM LOOSING IT! You people (my family)are drive me NUTS!!!” moment.

  3. M.J. says:

    Uh oh… Aunt Dot have anything to do with her 28 day visits?….

  4. wendy says:

    I had three girls, and we all synched to my Hubby’s pheromones. Poor guy.

  5. Justine says:

    I’m right there with ya.

  6. Madeleine says:

    Does your husband escape unscathed when he recognises the cause of your crisis? I tend to get cross when anything I do is blamed on periodic occurrences by others even if they’re right!

  7. Andrea says:

    Haha! I usually have “cross my path and prepare to die!” moment. I think I save up all the anger over the month to that one precise day that marks #28.

  8. Jo says:

    You’re not alone, babe. Not alone.

  9. Fern says:

    I develope a sudden emotional allergy to my kids!

  10. Jenn says:

    *grins*

  11. Reta says:

    Me too! Me too! Nice to know I’m not the only one.:)

  12. Brook says:

    It usually takes me actually starting my period to realize why everyone has been sooo mean for the last week.

    • Chrystal says:

      Right? Why can’t THEY just be nice.

    • holly says:

      lol agreed roflmao

    • Rose says:

      That is precisely how I feel! It isn’t ME who has been acting mean! It’s everybody else. I’m divorced single mom of a teenaged daughter and a tweenaged daughter, and I am presently synched up with the eldest. Lord help us when we are ALL timed just so! I need to stock up on Kleenex, chocolate, and red wine (wine is just for me, of course) on a regular basis. Any potential suitor that I might have will need to have a very high tolerance for some serious emotional yo-yoing.

  13. tara says:

    Hahah so THAT’S what’s wrong with me!

    Dark chocolate is my friend.

  14. Jennifer says:

    You’re doing better than I am….I have a midlife crisis every week!

  15. Kate says:

    I also was blessed with three daughters…between the four of us, My husband spent a lot of time drinking beer! Every 28 days my youngest would complain about the unfairness of being burdened with a uterus. The best day of my life (okay, not THE BEST, but one of my most favorites) was the day I had a hysterectomy (At 40, I was pretty sure I wouldn’t be needing that body part any more) and I have enjoyed every day of every month since then.

    • Mary Ann says:

      Oh my gosh โ€“ so glad someone dared to say it. I had my unfriendly uterus (major fibroids, 1-1/2 years of faucet-like fun) removed at 49, and it was pretty damned wonderful. I’ve also called it the-best-thing-ever. Kept my ovaries, so I still get hot-flash-crazy-fun-time now & then… But I cannot overemphasize how quickly the quality of life ramps up once all that ‘fuss’ is gone. Young women, try to ignore the usual bad hype about life after bleeding. It can be pretty freakin’ GREAT.

      • Noey says:

        I don’t give a single darn about hot flashes or whatever else. I just want to finally hit life after bleeding. I can deal with anything else, can I *PLEASE* just get to that point already???

  16. Angela says:

    I’m guilty of this too. Hahaha But my hubby does always make the chocolate medicine appear when *That* crisis happens. How does he know…….

  17. Angela says:

    Love it!!!

  18. Hahaha!! My husband told me the other day that I was overdue on my weekly meltdown (I’m currently a very hormonal pregnant lady), and he wanted to know if I could schedule it for him so that he could be prepared. Let’s just say that I was no longer overdue after that conversation.

    • christina says:

      Wow! He’s a brave man to bring that subject up. He should have left well enough alone ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Kris says:

      I’m also pregnant and emotional! I tell my hubby I feel a meltdown coming on as a warning for him. I’ve also had him help me start one (sad movie, talk of life insurance, etc.) I’d rather have my meltdown after the kids are in bed and I’m at home. Public ones are the worst. I had a very sweet friend ask how I was feeling after church lately and I just lost it…

      • Angie says:

        I am also preggers. Over the weekend my husband ate my Japanese Steakhouse leftovers. I got up the next morning with visions of grandure of eating this wonderful treat only seen about once every 3 years only to find the fried rice left (yummy steak, shrimp and veggies – G.O.N.E.) – WTF? This caused 2 hours of crying and screaming and ultimately resulted in me throwing his travel/shower bag across the floor AND then kicking it. Not sure if all that was warranted, but DAMN, it felt sooooo good. Don’t mess with my FOOD MAN!?>!?!?!?!

        • Bernadette says:

          I can totally relate!! I had a total meltdown when I was pregnant and couldn’t find my powdered Lipton Iced Tea mix that I had planned as my “special drink” for a picnic we were going to. Don’t eff with a pregnant mama’s food!!!!

      • Devan says:

        I do this when I feel one coming, I schedule it. Sounds super silly, but after I saw you say it I had to comment. ๐Ÿ™‚

  19. Karin says:

    Nicely done, nicely done. You are not alone my friend! ๐Ÿ™‚

  20. Betsy Luczaj says:

    In a few days you will suddenly have a burst of energy, creativity, and love for humanity! yeah, it goes away, but look forward to those lovely days ahead…

  21. Gotta keep the men folk on their toes! Don’t want them to get all comfortable in their Lazyboy’s, or anything!

  22. Katy Alexis says:

    I know! That’s because every 28 days men cycle through an obnoxious phase, kids cycle through a just-how-crazy-can-we-drive-mom phase, and houses cycle through an extra messy phase… even bosses often cycle through an annoying phase… sadly, all these generally sync perfectly and can drive a perfectly perfect woman, such as yourself, a little batty!

  23. Men have issues too. PMS. Pissy Man Syndrome. We women at least can be predictable. They have to be spontaneously poopheadish. No? Just my husband?

  24. Dawn says:

    Basically the world is ending and our marriage is on the rocks every month for a week….then it’s back to normal. I have started using Super Evening Primrose Oil (1400mg) between ovulation and menstruation with good results…..more stable moods and….no more cramps! Wish I knew about this 20 years ago!!

    • StephJ says:

      Does it have any side effects i.e. breakouts? I always break out on my chin right around my period and ovulation. when I was on the pill it was way worse.

      • Dawn says:

        It seems to stabilize most symptoms, although know I’m noticing some moodiness and acne in the first part of my cycle. I’m going too see a naturopath tomorrow to see if they recommend taking it constantly or just in half of the cycle.

        • Dawn says:

          OK, so word it that you are only supposed to take the evening primrose oil in the 2nd half of your cycle (from ovulation until menstruation, approx from day 14 on) otherwise it throws off the hormonal balance in their first part of the cycle. There are other things you can take to stabilize the first part and ease PMS symptoms if necessary like black cohosh. Learn something new everyday!

    • I’m curious about this. I’ve read about it in a couple of natural health forums. I know I definitely need to take something!

  25. Heidi says:

    I tell ya, I’ve only had 10 periods in the last 3 years & 5 months – I was pregnant 3 times in that span (first one was a miscarriage, the next two are healthy baby boys only 19 mos apart) and I breastfed. I just got my first period in 13 months and I had forgotten how sucky they are. Ugh.

    • annie says:

      Yeah, I’m one month postpartum and not looking forward to the eventual startup… gotta keep bfing!!!

    • It’s the worst when you finally get it again. It was the same for me for about 3-1/2 years, pregnant or breastfeeding, only one period when my oldest was 1 and then pregnant again (on purpose!) and breastfeeding. When I finally got it back, it was as if payback for all those months off I got.

    • Cynthia812 says:

      I’m at 11 months PP, still haven’t had one, BUT, I get the roller coaster every month just the same.

    • Kristin says:

      You lucky s.o.b.!! I’ve had three kids (16 and 22 months apart), breastfed them all and always got my period back by 1 1/2 months postpartum!! The only relief I got was when I was actually pregnant!

  26. Laura says:

    The appropriate response to this kind of comment in my house is: “Shut up! You don’t know!” What this actually means is: Just because you know me way too well doesn’t mean you get to remind me of what is actually occurring and point out the obvious.

  27. Granny Annie says:

    Queen Victoria used cannabis for this very problem. It works very well to lift mood, ease cramps, stabilize emotions, and, it’s a prostaglandin inhibitor so it cures the massive red tide that comes at peri menopause. You need to live in one of the good states to benefit from this.

  28. Amy says:

    My hubby I has learned through trial and error not to discuss any irrational behaviour on my part but to suddenly become by busy with work or cleaning the garage or speaking out random items. It’s best this way, honestly. He’s been known to return from work, walk in, take 1 look at me then head back out to return with my favourite dark choc within minutes. He’s a good man and will be allowed to stay ๐Ÿ˜‰

  29. Amy says:

    Oh and he doesn’t mind because it’s predictable. Had a hard time during my pregnancies because to unfettered rage or moments of total depression were more frequent and impossible to plan for.

  30. Dora says:

    You are gonna hate me… But I do not have those crises. Just feel sleepy and cuddly, and reeeeeaaaaally relaxed …

  31. Brooke says:

    Being pregnant with a girl has made me more irrational than I ever thought possible. Normal monthly craziness and pregnancy with a boy are not even in the same league as two female inhabiting the same body. My boys better be prepared for what is coming in about 12 years.

  32. Angela says:

    I call it my “spitting nails” crisis!

  33. Eva says:

    Oh my gosh, wishing for a facebook-style “like” button. So many of these comments are just so great!!
    Especially loving that I am not the only one who can’t see what is going on and wonders why everyone else has suddenly decided to become utter pains, and all a the same time to boot!

  34. StephJ says:

    I usually just want to go lie down in a dark, quiet room. Alone. that almost never happens, and there is H_LL to pay!!

  35. Em says:

    I have an ap on my phone that sets an alarm the week before AF is due ๐Ÿ™‚ This way I am prepared for the craziness ahead!
    I wish it would also set an alarm on DH phone so he could also be prepared.

    • Devan says:

      I have the P tracker app on mine, if he has iphone too and you are connected in the icloud, AND he has “get apps from icloud” enabled he should get the data from your p tracker app….deep gasp for air….I love my app and hubby knows when to take cover. ๐Ÿ™‚

  36. Mrs. Bo says:

    I’ve forgotten what those are like. Pregnancy + 1 year of nursing I haven’t had my period in 21 months.

    It’s been lovely and I intend on nursing right through to my next pregnancy, hopefully minimizing the periods between!

  37. Chris Carter says:

    Hormones are more powerful than any kind of illness that can hit you. It’s freaking CRAZY isn’t it? Ah…so glad I had all my girl parts taken out of me. The madness of menstruating long gone! WOOT!

  38. Denise Z says:

    Have you seen the 30 Rock episode called “Operation Righteous Cowboy Lightning”? Don’t want to spoil it if you haven’t, but the BEST line about our monthly mid-month crisis, ‘Ow! My period! You’re all fired!” from Liz Lemon.

  39. Kim Hake says:

    I told my doctor I get pissy every month and she told me to take vitamin b. so now, every morning, I think, “vitamin b so you’re not a b!”

  40. lit'l energizer bunny says:

    My dad had two daughters, one of whom was regular. To say the other had mood swings was an understatement. A ticking time bomb was more like it. We had lots of pain meds on hand ranging from weak to superhuman just in case..

  41. Lj says:

    Not kidding try vitex berry from Gaia #lifechanger
    I’m not snappy and nutso anymore … ( most of the time)!

  42. Rachel says:

    I totally get that one! My husband knows when the cranky goes off the charts it’s time to watch out and batton down the hatches. I’ll be sleeping in, raving lunatic, my zoloft won’t do any good, and I’ll prob curse up a storm if my little boy isn’t going to bed like a good angel baby. Anyways it blows over as quickly as it comes in and then the real fun begins ๐Ÿ˜‰

  43. Sue says:

    I can totally relate, although currently I am breast feeding my 4 month old and still enjoying postpartum infertility, but I get to deal with my 14 year old daughter now. When she was having a meltdown last week, it was my husband who asked me “could this be PMS?”. When I gently asked my daughter, she said “yeah, I know, I figured it out”. My hubby must have more experience recognizing these symptoms!

  44. Kate says:

    Add moving and it is a recipe for disaster :(. LOL….

  45. Stefanie says:

    I must be weird since I have these meltdowns at ovulation and a few days before day 28. I live in a house of boys so they look at me like my head is spinning on my neck!

  46. Ali says:

    Love it! Did he really say that? Did you hit him? (I would have hit mine.) ๐Ÿ™‚

  47. Hahaha! Perfect timing! I’m having that midlife crisis right now. My husband just said (in a tone that implies that I’m crazy) “you need to go to bed.”

    • Martha says:

      OMG! My hubs thinks that going to bed is the cure for all emotional ills. Like, every problem in the world will disappear if you just ignore it. NO!

  48. Carm says:

    HA! Mid-crisis I now price out flights to anywhere I’d rather be. (Miami is 80 degrees? For $400? OK!) I’m sure it’s not healthy but it’s awfully therapeutic.

  49. Amber you should join the PMS Club!

    http://www.thebeardediris.com/2012/11/08/the-first-rule-of-pms-club/

    I’m supposedly a card carrying member, though I don’t actually know what the cards look like. I bet they’re pretty sweet. Maybe even edible…

  50. Christiana says:

    LOL My husband can always tell because I go on a serious cleaning binge. ALWAYS Without fail. He’ll come home and find me scurrying around tidying everything and he’ll just SIGH.
    HA!

  51. Katia says:

    Yes, wonder why that is indeed? Or how about the fact I stopped having my mid month crisis after getting pregnant (wonder what that’s all about) but traded them in for a whole new set of crises?

  52. RedinNC says:

    Two words: Mirena IUD. Stops the monthly hoopla (after a few years). I love it.

    • Alex says:

      Yes, Mirena IUD is pretty awesome. I’ve had mine almost 5 years and haven’t had a real period since I started. I do get mild spotting and some PMS though… I mean, my family suddenly becomes impossible to deal with for a week and then the spotting starts and I think “aha! So that’s what’s going on”. You’d think I’d catch on but no, I’m always surprised. ๐Ÿ™‚

  53. Mary says:

    I second you RedinNC

    Mirena.

    Godsend. Stopped mine after 2 months. BEST THING EVER.

  54. Di says:

    I will admit this only here… but I get no time to myself EVER during the entire month. So I totally milk it when I’m OTR. Even if I’m not crabby or experiencing any physical discomforts, I claim to suffer tremendously, just so these clowns that I live with will leave me alone for a little while. And since they think I’m in such a delicate state, they actually oblige me. Hahaha! Well, and sometimes I really am crampy.

  55. Daruni says:

    haha is that what I’ve been through every month?

  56. Mamaclare says:

    I. Love. You. Perfect timing ๐Ÿ™‚

  57. Allie says:

    I can SOOO relate. I feel like my world is crumbling around me, and I just want to get in my car and drive far far away from everything! THEN, a few days later, I love everyone again ๐Ÿ™‚

  58. Heather says:

    You have no idea how much comfort this post has brought me today. I’m right there with you and its nice to be reminded as to what this is and not feel so alone.

  59. yep – I SO know what you are talking about.

  60. Connie says:

    When I was in college, I called my Mom every month, for 4 years, and said I was going to quit. She did not inform me of this until after I had graduated. she said that after the first 3-4 months that I was away, she figured it out and started saying “Oh, why don’t you give it a few days and see how you feel.” And, I’d be all better…until the next month.

  61. a girl says:

    You should never use your period as an excuse for your behaviour. Your brain makes the decisions, not your uterus. If you use your period as an excuse for being flustered, angry, rude, irritable or any other mood, you are giving men the right to do so. It also diminishes your ability to be a whole human, if your uterus (and hormones) affects you to the point that you cannot control your behaviour then you need a psychiatrist. ‘Cute’ jokes like this and all the sisterhood rah-rah crap just reinforces the idea that women are defined and controlled by their reproductive system.

  62. Robonanny says:

    I had cramps and nausea (actual vomming nausea, not just vague queasiness) for years. Was excited when I got pregnant that I’d be missing on that fun for the next several months… and got morning sickness the whole way through. Arse.

    Since I don’t intend to be up the duff again any time soon, Cerazette (oral contraceptive) turned out to be the answer. No flow. Much happier me. Much happier everyone around me ๐Ÿ™‚ I thoroughly recommend it, unless of course you’re hoping to pee on sticks any time soon!

  63. Des says:

    It irritates me when my husband says “Oh. Couple more days, huh?” I get irritated. Then I check the calendar. Dammit!

  64. deneen says:

    some of my mommy friends and i were considering the idea of a womens commune … every one chips in about $70 a month and we actually commit to a rental … you can go anytime to de-stress or have a quiet cuppa or even a meal … the probelm? we decided we would all want to stay over too much … sigh …..

  65. Diana says:

    Hey I just had one of those three days ago! ๐Ÿ™‚

  66. Bonnie says:

    Someone made a comment about how women shouldn’t blame their emotional outbursts on their uterus or hormones and take responsibility for their behavior (their brain.) I won’t mention the fact that hormones are an integral part of the brain, or that there is no separation between mind and body. What I will mention is my philosophy on the reason why we seem to explode every month. I think this time is when we are being our true selves and the other 3 weeks we are simply trying to deal with the craziness of our world like “ladies.” But everyone knows that being a lady often means biting your tongue, not standing up to the status quo, trying to conform to what’s expected – more of the old idea of what a lady is that is still present in our upbringing (the oppressive side.) But in truth the world can be a pretty nasty place. There are horrible things happening constantly, people hurting each other, people hurting the environment, etc. And nobody is more aware of these horrors than a woman, especially a mother. This is part of the reasons we have hormones, to be aware. So it seems to me that we are given a gift to be our TRUE SELVES during this week, when we can say “Alright everybody, cut the bullshit and lets get real for a while. Things are really f’uped right now and we need to face this shit!” Or something of the sort. And indeed, everyone seems to march to a different tune for a while (because nobody wants to mess with a hormonal woman =) Then it’s as if the week goes by and everyone slips back into fairy tale land for a while. (Because lord knows we couldn’t be this on top of things all the time =) So I always say, the women who made the major changes in life, like those leading the suffrage movement, were mostly likely PMSing when they finally decided enough was enough. In other words, they were pissed and they let everyone know it. So, while I try to keep my head somewhat level at these times of the month, I also try to pay close attention to the things that really urk me and address the reasons why. I trust that my heightened sense of awareness and emotions are a strong communication tool that I can use for the benefit of the good. (A wake up call of sorts.) In other words, If there weren’t anything to get riled up about, I probably wouldn’t be feeling so emotional. This might all sound crazy, but think about how long women have been made to feel like something is wrong with them at these times (hysterical lately?) Then look at how many women experience the same thing. I don’t see anything as being wrong except our perception and understanding about the benefits of our gift. It’s like being given a magic spell but we don’t know how to completely use it because for so long our spell has been caste in the negative light. Trust me, there is great power in that week when one really sees it. Of course, the process isn’t rational, it’s systemic and complex, which is part of the gift (it helps us see the bigger picture.) My hope is that we can teach our daughters a different understanding about this process and how to use our heightened awareness and emotion for a greater good. Anyway, my two cents …
    Now I’ll return to my cramping and chocolate, if you don’t mind =)

  67. Mary Kate says:

    Soooo true!! At least I’m not the only one! It was YEARS before I put two and two together and realized this..

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